By Ahmed Sabi Abubakar
Who Am I
What is my truth? What do I stand for?
These are important questions we need to ask ourselves.
What are the things you consider important, the things you can put your all in?
What do you truly like to do, if we didn’t need money to function, but had to work, what would you choose to do?
Most of us go through life living up to expectations and definitions of our society. These expectations were shaped by others, and it is up to us to access them deeply and stand by the ones that resonate with us.
The clothes we wear, the music we listen to, the food we eat, the stuff we do for fun, the jobs we spend our lives doing, everything we do that constitutes life. Why do we do them, why do we choose what we choose?
Knowing one’s truth is necessary for fulfillment, when you don’t live life on default, but make conscious decisions that help get you to a desired destination, growth happens.
This destination has to be based on your truth and not a shallow desire.
Basically truth is a code you live by, when you consciously define what you stand for, what you value, what your boundaries are, and what you aspire to be, you have found your truth.
To define your truth is one of the most important things you can do in your life, and it should evolve as growth occurs.
We all face trials in life, though of varying magnitudes, these trials have a purpose most of the time. They could be opportunities for us to reflect and determine what is important to us, what we should hold on to and what we should let go.
Living with truths of others could be very draining and it makes life much harder than it should be. Trying to honor every invitation, attend every event, are signs of misplaced truths. So is worrying about commitments that aren’t as important as they seem.
Finding your truth and living by it makes life so much easier especially when facing adversity. Your truth would help you choose your fights and expend your resources more wisely. You’ll be more resilient, confident and focused. It would help you live as life was designed to be lived, with honesty, integrity, authenticity and love.
It is common for us to assume we are one way while the world sees us differently. The distance between both perspectives would depend on how honest we are with ourselves, or simply put, how self-aware we are.
Our susceptibility to living others’ truths stems from our human desire to be accepted by our society. We tend to put too much pressure on ourselves to fit in, and at the end of the day it’s hardly ever worth it.
To some extent, you might seem selfish or distant, especially when you have to turn down a few wedding and hangout invitations. But the more anchored you are in your truth, the less guilty you’ll feel.
Working through your truth would require you to self-reflect by asking yourself some important questions like;
- What do I stand for?
- What are my core values?
- What are my strengths and weaknesses?
- What do I think about myself?
- What are my expectations and boundaries?
- What makes me happy?
- What do I enjoy doing?
- What do I cherish?
Understanding the answers to these questions would truly enrich your life by making decisions easier to make and allowing you truly immerse yourself in anything you choose to be involved in.